Now, this is more than a controversial issue and I won't even attempt to outline all aspects of my take, but I am going to highlight why I think being a ga'y might mean you haven't properly dealt with issues in your life. And it has to do with emotional collapse that has not been addressed, at least in some of the cases and for that matter all the cases I have had a deeper take on, just recently.
Yes, I am not going to get into the Torah says it's a capital sin, nor won't I bore you with biological and procreational blatancies. Let it suffice to say those are valid points to argue, but for the time being, outside my interest.
What I do care about is that I've just heard about the second lady in a row who had extremely unfortunate experiences with men, got hurt/abandoned/abused/divorced and the whole ordeal left her (them) emotionally unstable... when the right "girl" showed up and initiated a ho'mose'xual relationship and it came to fruition if that's an appropriate word to use.
None of these cases imply necessarily that the "seducer" is an evil vulture, to the contrary, they are the understanding sweeties these girls had craved for beforehand. Honestly, it drives me mad that one of these girls used to be a very close friend to me and it was my mother, who said about 16-17 years ago that this girl is one whom she can imagine marrying rather soon, then having a bunch of children and living a home-maker's life. And my Mom is and was true, that was the biggest craving of this girl, to be romantic, to have kids and a family and be embraced by strong arms and kissed by a man with a bristly face. I recall objecting passionately and telling her off for being so unearthly, for living in romantic dreams that have nothing to do with reality and that she should study instead of daydreaming.
I would have never imagined such a turn of events.
Now, when I faced another case, the question was obvious: what led these girls to this point?
My old friend had a series of unfortunate relationships, one funkier (worse) than the other when finally she married a real jerk with whom they divorced in the end. The second girl's case is not all that different, either.
Could these, maybe temporary lifestyles (only on their part) have been prevented by proper emotional and spiritual care? Before you start the 21st century bullsh'it about me being narrow-minded and I should accept that some people happen to be ga'ys and that is genetic blah-blah-blah, please, bear in mind that I have other ga'y, male friends whom I love, appreciate and respect even though I might not agree with their sexual preferences (oh, and how good-looking, intelligent, fine they are, a loss for me and the female society!) I'm condoning all other aspects, apart from the "emotional hurt might have propelled such turn" opinion.
If you also have ga'y friends and know their stories and if you could confirm or argue my case, although I am absolutely aware that this is a multi-layered, not necessarily scrutiny-friendly topic, I would be happy to hear both validating and annulling comments. But I am not interested in stories where the lady/man was obviously interested in the other gender from extremely early on, but those who had other se'x relationships and then turned to hom'ose'xuality. Eager to hear from you!
PS: this week(end) is the Budapest Pr'ide.
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